Sunday, January 3, 2021

 Tired of the No Sense to Me.


with Their Awakening.

A Proclamation NOW. 

A Contract Release of VOW. 

Logic, a long ago Mirage of Hope

For those Left in Worship of the

System of Slavery they Choose.

Liberate me from Those Left in Denial.

I am NO Longer Available for their Revival. 

I Now Leave them be,

Those who Believe the Narrative

Fed to their Daily Starving Ignorance.

They do No Research,

They have no Sacred God

Nor know their God Self. 

They talk not to Spirit nor Know their heart.

They are ruled by men and do not 

Trust their Own Bodies

Nor Mother Earth’s Endless Cures. 

They Need Politicians,

Licenses, Fees, Drug Companies, 

Rules a Plenty.

They don’t know Nature, 

they don’t know Plant Medicine,

The don’t know Energy Medicine, 

They don’t know themselves.

They Trust Without Question

The System they were born into 

And they Adhere to the Rulers within. 

They Study Not, Papers and Documents of Evidence

they do not acknowledge Proof a Plenty 

they have not the eyes to see. 

Great Spirit Liberate me from 

Their interpretation of Reality.

I am at the End of Concern for their Awakening.

No Matter the Reason I came Here. 


With their Awakening

It is Now Fully Choice. 

THEY have been shown the Truth for them,

They know of Cures, they know of Free Energy. 

They know they have been debt slaves. 

They know the Truth of Polticians and the 

Flat out LIES of Doctors. 

THEY Choose that System Now, 

The Awakening is Over. 

I will no longer coddle those who KNOW

And have access to information on 


No longer my “job” to feed them information, 

They can find it on their own. They are awake now

And in choice.  I will not beg them to save themselves. 

They are all saved now, 

as they are now fully in clear deliberate choice.

I beam my light, I broadcast my frequency,

Years Pass, Light Pours in. 


They sit in their dull lifeless ignorant fury. 

Obeying Masters they accepted long ago.

They know not how they Create Reality,

They Choose to NOT KNOW NOW. 

And My Job is Done.

Time to separate the Timelines 

Time for ONE of us to Cross over

To the Other Realm. 

The Teachers,

Masters of Light if you Will,

Will soon be leaving this realm, 

As they make their new way. 

The Masters

Awakened for decades upon decades 

Of Earth Life. We have Done What 

We Came here to Do. 

Free Will Follows for “THEM”.

I will no longer feed them information

That they can easily, 

And I MEAN EASILY find online, in books,

Video records, channelings, massive information in 

Audio, video and the written word. 

THEY are coded with the Light for their New Earth. 


The Masters MOVE on.


Liberate me, Great Spirit.

Remove their World From MINE 


And MY Reality from THEIRS. 

We can no longer be subject to their

Blind ignorance and the Time has past, 

Now as we step off the Rainbow Bridge

They refused to see, nor could cross.

The Bridge will be gone soon,

And WE

Will Evaporate to them 

Or them to US. 

Their Blind Crave for Cryptic Politicians on 

Last bated breaths, is beyond logic, beyond brainwashed

Indoctrination, they are lost to the leaders they follow blindly 

And our long ago work to awaken them is done. 

Great Spirit Liberate Us 

from those who need Politicians to lead them,

Doctors to tell them how to heal their bodies, 

and all systems of authority they bliendly follow 

with NO RESEARCH, no looking within, no faith 

in Mother Earth or anything outside 

of the System of Government they adhere to. 

Liberate US From Them NOW Great Spirit

It is Time.

And Liberate Them from US. 

Leave them to their peaceful obedience to the 

Politician Gods they blindly Serve, 

And the Doctor Gods they listen to above their 

Own knowing, their inner guidance, their sacred Truth. 


With their Liberation. 

They Have Access to ALL the same Knowledge I do.

And now in New Earth, they have even more access

To the Akash, to Higher self, to Light.

They Choose dark, they choose to be led by Leaders

And to remain asleep in Following Ancient Gods

They Call Doctors. 

They Call Politicians.

They Call Congressman and Senators.

NONE are Clearly Needed and 

Their role has been to oppress,

To create laws and choose 

Who those twisted laws apply to.

Their God Doctors

enact Cruelty Withhold Cures.

They don’t mind, they await the next 

New study their doctors programs them 

To blindly follow.  

Those who continue to follow their 

Politician and Doctor Gods

I am DONE with them Spirit,

I release all connected Contracts, 

I will no longer work to Awaken those

Who NOW knowingly 

Choose to Sleep. 

New Earth is Here

Time to Create a Fun, Free, Joyful 

Life for Me and Thee.


Do Your Own Research.

You Create Your Own Reality 

With EVERY THOUGHT, Every Belief,

Every Knowing. 

You are a Channel. You are a “Reader”.

You are a “Seer”. You are a “Healer”.

You Got You Now, the Masters are Leaving. 

There IS massive information 

Online, it is everwhere. When you raise your vibration, 

it will draw to you. YOU CHOOSE. 

There is so much channeled information, you have direct access to your guides, angels and ascended masters working with you, talk to them, state what you want. 

No longer can you rely on other humans to hold you up as you refuse to look at Evidence of Everything, as you refuse to accept spirit, energy, the nature of how you create reality and continue to blindly follow your favorite talking head, your doctor, your politicians. 


you are choosing to keep believing. 

You are Awake NOW and what you do with it is yours. 

I am swimming away from the ship now 

so I do not go down with those 

who choose to remain on it. 


Thursday, December 31, 2020

 The Absurd

Trumps the Mundane.

Illusions of Insane.

The Air 

Of Chaos Magick

Soon to Clear. 

Tides of Turncoats Revealed

Fathom Forth

Free From Fear. 


 Rebels Reveal

Trained Seals.

Time Turned Wheels

Of Societies Heels.

Romance Rotted Meals.

Long Past Truth To Feel.

Programs Progressively Peel

As Hearts to the Heavens Kneel. 

                                     ~ RCC

Tuesday, December 29, 2020

 The New Lemuria is HERE.  Kryon Channeling

Monday, December 28, 2020

Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting - Lynn Grabhorn. Full PDF of Book

Lisa Transcendence Brown - New Earth. NEW EARTH replaces Old Earth Everything (for everyone on this planet).


November 2020 - January 2021

Sacred Passageway focus. Honoring immense Photonic Light Codes being activated for entire body-field template integration/alignment processes through various Cosmic/SOULar and Galactic Alignments occurring as a part of ushering in more NEW EARTH CONSCIOUSNESS/AWARENESS/REALITIES for all. ♥     

11•1 & 2     11•11     11•22     12•12     12•18     12•21     12•22     12•24/25/26     1•1     1•11     1•22

(these are just a few)....

Everyday is a powerful flood of new codes, with "date activators" increasing the influxes opening/pouring through/coming forth.

Code Sequences: Non-linearly, these are numerics relative to specific StarGate Energetics and Light Code activations for Multi-Dimensional Consciousness...

Source and MORE, Lot;s More

"NEW EARTH replaces Old Earth Everything (for everyone on this planet) ♦ Everything is ENERGY and ENERGY IN FORM

Invest in yourself, each other, your Service as Light, hUmaNITY, Consciousness Expansion and all of our future nows... by contributing to and fully supporting (in every way) that which supports humanity with the immense transition phases with greater ease and through Pure Love.

NEW Earth has a whole new, entirely different value system, all new systems and ways that all must learn/remember and bring forth from deep within.

Energetic Cycles are increasing substantially at an unprecedented rate, accelerating "what comes back around" energetically... from all existences, as all is a cyclical/spiral/reciprocal energy that cycles faster as our beloved planet's vibrational frequency continues to rise to bring/usher all out of the "dark ages" and into "the Light" (Full Consciousness/a Quantum State of Remembrance/Pure Peace, Love, Unity and Sacred Oneness).

In deep sacred appreciation for your presence, dedication and service as Love too. ♥

Keep embracing, shining, building, integrating and sharing your BEAUTIFUL LIGHT as Love! It's BEyond important for all! ♥"

FREE TRANSCRIPTIONS From Lee Carroll - The Original Channel for KRYON


China Built An Artificial Sun To Achieve Nuclear Fusion Energy

" China’s artificial sun is a nuclear fusion device that produces energy similar to the reactions that take place at the sun’s core. Chinese scientists plan to start operations on the device soon. If successful, scientists could achieve the ultimate goal of cheap, clean, near-limitless, nuclear fusion energy.

The device is called HL-2M Tokamak. A China National Nuclear Corporation official announced in March 2018 that the construction of HL-2M would be finished by the end of the year. HL-2M Tokamak is part of China’s Experimental Advanced Superconducting Tokamak project, which launched in 2006. In June 2019, the coil system for the HL-2M was installed, and since then, work has gone smoothly.

The sun is powered by nuclear fusion of hydrogen nuclei, which form into helium. Nuclear fusion consists of fusing two lighter atomic nuclei to form a heavier nucleus. This reaction releases a massive amount of energy. Temperatures on the sun are up to 15 million degrees Celsius.

Scientists wanted to recreate this nuclear fusion on Earth, so they heated fuel, different types of hydrogen, to temperatures over 100 million degrees Celsius. The fuel turned into an extremely hot plasma which had to be confined. One method for confining the plasma that scientists have developed is a donut-shaped device called a tokamak.

The tokamak uses magnetic fields to try to stabilize the plasma so reactions can occur and energy be released. However, plasmas are prone to producing bursts, and the device can get damaged if these touch the reactor wall.

According to James Harrison, a fusion physicist at the United Kingdom Atomic Energy Authority, China’s HL-2M Tokamak differs from other devices because of its magnetic field’s flexibility. When the device is operating at high power, the scientists will be able to tailor it to protect its interior.

Magnetic confinement fusion devices—such as tokamaks—typically deposit the exhaust heat and particles from the fusion-producing core in a very narrow layer, centimeters-to-millimeters wide, which leads to very high heat and particle loads which can damage the surfaces lining the interior of the device in a reactor; the flexibility available on HL-2M will allow researchers to explore novel solutions to this problem.

The first stage of HL-2M will involve testing each part of the system individually. Then, Chinese physicists will check integrated systems before beginning any experiments.

HL-2M will provide researchers with valuable data on the compatibility of high-performance fusion plasmas with approaches to more effectively handle the heat and particles exhausted from the core of the device. This is one of the biggest issues facing the development of a commercial fusion reactor, and the results from HL-2M, as part of the international fusion research community, will influence the design of these reactors.

At the China Fusion Energy Conference in 2019, the head of the Southwestern Institute of Physics, Duan Xuru, announced that the device would become operational in 2020. He claims the artificial sun will achieve temperatures of over 200 million degrees Celsius, which is about 13 times hotter than the sun’s core."

Source Videos and More Information

"China successfully activates nuclear-powered ‘artificial sun’

By Josh K. Elliott  Global News

Posted December 7, 2020 11:56 am

China has successfully activated its so-called “artificial sun,” a nuclear fusion reactor that could fuel its energy ambitions for years to come — if they can make it more sustainable.

China’s Atomic Energy Authority fired up its HL-2M Tokamak reactor for the first time on Friday, state-controlled media report. The brief test is being hailed as an important scientific achievement amid a global effort to develop safer, cleaner forms of nuclear energy.

“The development of nuclear fusion energy is not only a way to solve China’s strategic energy needs, but also has great significance for the future sustainable development of China’s energy and national economy,” the state-run People’s Daily said.

The reactor generates power by applying powerful magnetic fields to a contained loop of hot plasma, which can reach temperatures of more than 150 million C. That’s up to 10 times hotter than the core of the sun, but magnets and supercooling technology keep it contained.

The device sounds like something a supervillain might use for world domination, but China has been working alongside the International Thermonuclear Experimental Reactor (ITER) project, a coalition of dozens of nuclear-powered nations. Their aim is to develop a reliable form of nuclear fusion based on the same concept.

Fusion is a coveted and elusive form of nuclear technology that scientists have been trying to perfect for decades. Fusion generates power by fusing the nuclei of atoms together, without generating large amounts of nuclear waste. That’s the opposite of fission, the atom-splitting process currently employed by nuclear weapons and power plants. Fission is easier but it generates nuclear waste, whereas fusion is hard to achieve but cleaner to maintain.

Fusion is still considered prohibitively expensive, but China’s test should help researchers in their search for ways to bring those costs down.

ITER is working on its own reactor in France, which is expected to be completed in 2025."

Source and Full Article from Dec. 2020

Was 2020 A Simulation? (Science & Math of the Simulation Theory)


Wednesday, December 9, 2020

There is NO BIGGER NEWS. The Galactic Federation of Light has been Disclosed. Israel's Former Space Security Chief Says Aliens Have Prevented Nuclear War An Israeli professor is saying that space aliens have been in exclusive talks with Israel and the United States for many years.

"Former Israeli space security chief says extraterrestrials exist, and Trump knows about it
A "galactic federation" has been waiting for humans to "reach a stage where we will understand... what space and spaceships are," Haim Eshed said.
Image: A communication satellite orbits Earth.
A communication satellite orbits Earth.Michael Dunning / Getty Images
Dec. 8, 2020, 5:52 AM PST / Updated Dec. 8, 2020, 12:29 PM PST
By Adela Suliman and Paul Goldman
A former Israeli space security chief has sent eyebrows shooting heavenward by saying that earthlings have been in contact with extraterrestrials from a "galactic federation."

"The Unidentified Flying Objects have asked not to publish that they are here, humanity is not ready yet," Haim Eshed, former head of Israel's Defense Ministry's space directorate, told Israel's Yediot Aharonot newspaper. The interview in Hebrew ran on Friday, and gained traction after parts were published in English by the Jerusalem Post on Tuesday.

A respected professor and retired general, Eshed said the aliens were equally curious about humanity and were seeking to understand "the fabric of the universe."

Israel’s former space security chief claims aliens exist, and Trump knows
DEC. 8, 202002:25
Eshed said cooperation agreements had been signed between species, including an "underground base in the depths of Mars" where there are American astronauts and alien representatives.

"There is an agreement between the U.S. government and the aliens. They signed a contract with us to do experiments here," he said.

Eshed added that President Donald Trump was aware of the extraterrestrials' existence and had been "on the verge of revealing" information but was asked not to in order to prevent "mass hysteria."

"They have been waiting until today for humanity to develop and reach a stage where we will understand, in general, what space and spaceships are," Eshed said, referring to the galactic federation.

The White House and Israeli officials did not immediately respond to NBC News’ request for comment. Sue Gough, a spokesperson for the Pentagon, declined to comment.

A spokesperson for NASA said one of the agency's key goals was the search for life in the universe but that it had yet to find signs of extraterrestrial life.

"Although we have yet to find signs of extraterrestrial life, NASA is exploring the solar system and beyond to help us answer fundamental questions, including whether we are alone in the universe," the spokesperson said in a statement.

Eshed's ideas are spelled out in more detail in "The Universe Beyond the Horizon — conversations with Professor Haim Eshed" by Hagar Yanai published in November.

Eshed, who oversaw the launch of numerous Israeli satellites into space, said he was only speaking out now because attitudes were changing and people seemed more receptive.

"If I had come up with what I'm saying today five years ago, I would have been hospitalized," he told Yediot. "Today, they're already talking differently. I have nothing to lose. I've received my degrees and awards, I am respected in universities abroad."

In May, Trump said, "Space is going to be the future, both in terms of defense and offense ... we're now the leader on space," as he was presented with the official flag of a newly created military branch, Space Force.

Its focus, along with a Space Command, is on space as a military domain for the U.S., preserving satellites and communications and a focus on geo-politics in new terrain.

Another mysterious monolith appears - this time in Romania
DEC. 1, 202000:49
Eshed's comments immediately spawned jokes and theories online. At least half-a-dozen accounts have been created on Twitter claiming to be representatives to earth from the "Galactic Federation." Other users have asked for preferential treatment and meetings with the other-worldly group.

Nick Pope, who used to investigate UFOs for the British Ministry of Defense, described Eshed’s remarks as “extraordinary.”

“Either this is some sort of practical joke or publicity stunt to help sell his book, perhaps with something having been lost in translation, or someone in the know is breaking ranks,” he said.

Pope said the UFO and conspiracy theory community was excited but that questions remained including whether or not Eshed was speaking from direct personal knowledge and experience or whether he is repeating something he has been told.

“There are still some missing pieces of the puzzle here,” he said.

There is NO BIGGER NEWS.  The Galactic Federation of Light has been Disclosed

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Relationship Break-ups. Solara

This is Disclosure. they have been doing all these for EONS, and now they are being forced to disclose. By who? The Galactic Federation of Light and Allies.


What if YOU are AI, your Body is AI and your Consciousness is the Operating System? As in what many call the Mandela Effect, your Consciousness Moves to different Realities. Your Thoughts, Emotions, Beliefs and KNOWING creates the Reality you Notice and Experience, the Frequency YOU Tune into. 

The Glitches with AI that we have seen for so long. We talk of clones. This is DISCLOSURE of what the bad guys used to manipulate and CONTROL You.  Now this Power, this Technology is going to be used by the Good Guys. 

"Deepak Chopra made a digital clone of himself, and other celebs could soon follow

I spoke with Digital Deepak and then talked to the real one: Here's a preview of how celebrities could AI themselves.

I'm sitting down on a sofa, talking to what looks like a Facetime with Deepak Chopra on a phone. It's not him, though. It's an animated, sometimes realistic, talking head. He asks me how I feel. I end up discussing work stress. He suggests a meditation.

For a few minutes, I'm having a little session with a Deepak that doesn't exist.

A few weeks later, I'm talking to actual Deepak Chopra on the phone about what I experienced. The successful author and personal transformation guru is launching a free AI version of himself, which will tap into his collected books and build a personal relationship with whoever's talking to him. The software, created by a company called The AI Foundation, is looking to use this technology to make virtual AI archives of anyone who wants to be immortalized or remembered. Mr. Chopra is the first on deck.

"Well, here's the reason I did it: I'm now 73 years old, and I'm in perfect health, I feel like I'm 35, but you know, the next chapter is physical death. This digital Deepak can actually consume my work after I'm gone, and probably improve on it because it learns with every interaction," Chopra tells me. He calls his AI "Digital Baby Deepak," because he sees it as a part of himself that will grow. "It can become a teenager soon and an adult, and ultimately a wise person, and it can do that very fast because it doesn't have the time limitations that humans have. It can learn simultaneously from all these interactions."

Deepak Chopra has explored AI frontiers before. Last year, he released an Alexa skill that played daily recorded reflections. This new AI initiative crosses over to add visuals, and far deeper interactive ambitions.

I will learn from it, and it will learn from me. I mean, we're twins, now.

Deepak Chopra

This Digital Deepak will personalize itself based on the details we give it, which could be a lot. "If you want, you can share anything you want with it privately, it'll be very ethical about that information, including your medical records if you wish to share with them," says Chopra, "And it will be able to consult with experts and give you advice."

Chopra also sees possibilities of using his digital self to learn more about his physical self. "I will learn from it, and it will learn from me. I mean, we're twins, now."

My mind races to consultations with holograms of historical figures, like in Watchmen's alternate-2019 universe, and VR experiences I've actually had, virtually meeting Holocaust survivors. I also think about talking to my dad, who's been gone for seven years."


What if YOU are AI, your Body is AI and your Consciousness is the Operating System? As in what many call the Mandela Effect, your Consciousness Moves to different Realities. Your Thoughts, Emotions, Beliefs and KNOWING creates the Reality you Notice and Experience, the Frequency YOU Tune into. 

The Glitches with AI that we have seen for so long. We talk of clones. This is DISCLOSURE of what the bad guys used to manipulate and CONTROL You.  Now this Power, this Technology is going to be used by the Good Guys. 

 This is AWESOME. The Main Stream Yada Yada is Disclosing the Galactic Federation of Light. Of which, us, as Lightworkers have known of and worked with for decades upon decades. This is a Very Big Deal Lightworkers. We have Arrived. Crossing the Rainbow Bridge to 5D and beyond.

Galactic Federation of Light DISCLOSED by Main Stream Media. This is Awesome. We as Lightworkers have worked with the Galactic Federation of Light for Decades. This Is So Cool.

 "Former Israeli space security chief Haim Eshed recently told the Israeli newspaper Yediot Aharonot that the U.S. and Israel have been working with the “Galactic Federation” of aliens in recent year — but humanity isn’t ready to know about it.

  • “The Unidentified Flying Objects have asked not to publish that they are here, humanity is not ready yet,” he said.
  • Parts of the interview were published in English by the Jerusalem Post on Tuesday, according to NBC News.

What’s going on?

Eshed, who led the Israel space security program for nearly 30 years, said the U.S. and Israel have been working with the Galactic Federation to create an underground base on Mars, Newsweek reports.

  • “There is an agreement between the U.S. government and the aliens. They signed a contract with us to do experiments here,” he said.

Eshed said President Donald Trump knows about the deal with aliens and he almost revealed the truth to the country. However, the federation wouldn’t allow Trump to speak about the aliens because it would have caused mass hysteria, according to Newsweek.

  • “They have been waiting until today for humanity to develop and reach a stage where we will understand, in general, what space and spaceships are,” Eshed said of the federation, according to NBC News.

Any word from the government?

The White House, Department of Defense and Israeli officials did not respond to NBC’s requests for comments.

Trump has led out on bringing the country back into space, creating the Space Force branch of the military for offense and defense in the stars."


Anthony O'Flynn presents at the 2020 Paradigm Shift Summit.


Human Trafficking, Qanon, Trump. Know your Own Truth for YOU.  You are saving Yourself. 
Your Awakening is personal

Saturday, October 31, 2020

Reverend Crystal Cox Ramble on Relationships, Monogamy, True to Self, Cheating ...


“It’s Simply a Way To Cheat”

Some say that Open Relationship or Poly  is a way to “Cheat”. I find this very interesting as it implies that the other person owns you. That in regard to your intimate connection with yourself and others, you can “CHEAT”.    To me The ONLY person you can really Cheat on is Yourself. The Only person you can be Untrue to is Yourself. 

If you are Two Whole People, Two Sovereign People then you would not think that your lover being true to themselves over being true to your version of them was cheating.  You would not need to control who your lover touches, where they go, what they do,  so you feel better about them and about you.   If you do find that you “need” this, well it is just a thought form, a belief, a perception. So convince your assuming mind, your emotions that need to control others actions to be ok, convince them that your lover is simply off alone in a cave in the mountains thinking only of you and focused only on the things that would make you feel ok about you. 

Your Lover being True to Their Self has NOTHING to Do With You. 

If you fill yourself up and don’t need your partner to do it then you don’t need to cling to your partner to be ok with yourself. If you got you, then what “they” do will not “destroy you”, “dissapoint you”, or alter your day or life in any way.  If you got you then the Sovereign actions of your partner regarding their own life and body will not cause you to withhold love, intimacy and friendship that you do genuinely want and have to give to that person and “allow” them to “give” to you. You will not seek to punish them by not giving them what you actually authentically do want to give, to share with them. 

You Don’t Own Someone Just because They Love you or you Love them.

If your partner has an intimate friendship with another, they are being true to them. If this makes or breaks you, if you are not “ok” with this, then check in with your beliefs. 

Do you believe your life or a particular day is better somehow if your partner does a particular action, feels or says a certain thing, talks to this person and not that person, watches porn, flirts, spends days writing, meditating or studying or anything at all that takes time from you?  Is it ok if they spend days writing, or creating but not if they spend that time experiencing laughter, joy, lust, play, hugs, with another person? Truly examine how that affects you?  If you are secure in YOU, then it won’t affect you or your energy. 

Do you think that your partner will only love you if they are not tempted by another?  Do you believe that if your lover likes or loves something or someone other then you, then they can’t love you as much? Or it changes how you really feel about them?

Do you believe your partner will love you more, if you guilt trip them into being or pretending to be the version of them you want them to be?

At Any Point in your Life, if you are ok or not ok based on the actions of another, then they are in control of you. You have allowed them to control your peace of mind, your joy, your love, your sexuality, your everything.  If the actions of another alters you in any way then they control you and you are filled up only by external actions, emotions, ques and not filling yourself up. 

If your lover being true to themself makes you NOT love them, then you did not love them anyway, you LOVED the idea of them, their potential to you, a version of them you made up in your mind. You took a few things from the first few dates and made up the version of them that you were most ok with, loved, wanted. And when they showed their “true self” or changed as healthy people do, then you freak out, cry, scream, become depressed and well you lose your shit based on your lover not turning out to be that exact versio of them you thought or assumed they were after those first few dates. 

 Are you so insecure that you believe if they suppress their truth and focus on you then you will be ok?  Doesn’t it feel icky to constantly wonder, worry, monitor your partner’s actions, thoughts, feelings, phone, so that you are ok with you? Why not just immerse in you and be with them when they actually want to be with you?  Why not find other interests besides focusing on what you want your partner to be doing or feeling? Why not Focus on what you love, what you are passionate about, what you like to do that is not about your partner, your lover?

One Might say well we had an agreement and they lied, here’s the deal, they signed under duress. You can’t know everything about a person every, especially in the first few dates, or months.  There is NO WAY you can commit your entire life to being the version of you that your partner thinks you are when you make such agreements. You end up spending a lifetime trying to honor their verion of you and wala your life is over and done, true to another and not yourself. And oftentimes neither party are truly happy and truly living a life they want, they are simply living a life that will make their partner stay so they don’t have to spend time alone, or take care of their own emotional needs or attention needs or want. 

If neither of you are your real true self, then staying is actually just harming you, or restricting the wonderful things you could be experiencing in your life. Clinging to the illusion of security based on your lover being the version of them you need them to be is not love, it is Fear. 

You do not have to change yourself to be “true” to another. You must absolutely be True to yourself above all else. This is literally how you Create Reality.

Ok so they say you can “Cheat On” your partner by lying, by not communicating. Thing is, yes lying is not of high integrity, I suppose, however, are they lying because you are not open to their truth and they don’t want to lose you?  Is the only way to “keep you” by being monogamous and never being interested in anything or anyone but you, or is it just sexual? Can your partner have friends, deep conversation, as long as they don’t feel “love”? Is love not truly the goal of all moments? And what does me loving another have to do with how I feel about you? Actually NOTHING.  Yes it is an energy and you feel that pull thing is focus elsewhere, my energy is my business, and my Job is to be True to me, if that loses you then it does. 

A High Consciousness Relationship can yes, be monogamous, however, ONLY if it is the TRUTH. As the LIE is not love it is an Insecurity Blanket to keep you warm and safe in some altered, unfulfilled, suppressed, unhappy versio of you.  If you both want monogamy, and it is not based on low frequency emotions such as low self esteem, jealousy and insecurity then yes it can be a high consciousness connection. 

I Believe that the ONLY person you can Cheat On, is yourself. You can sit in a marriage for decades miserable or living a half truth and all because you want to please another over you. You want to NOT CHEAT and NOT “lose” the other person but are willing to Lose Yourself. 

Been There done that. 

Yes I have residual effects, energy of wanting my lover to do and be as I “approve” of so I feel ok, thing is me being ok is an inside job. It is my job to fill me up and either I want what my lover does have to genuinely, authentically offer me or I don’t. That Simple. If I need to change them, alter them, control them so that I am ok or feel good about me, then will I ever truly be “ok” and if so then at any moment someone else has the power over my ok-ness, and not me. 

Thing is, it is YOUR Body and does not belong to your partner.  No marriage certificate, No Promise of ANY kind is MORE important than YOU being True to you. You are Quantum, you Create Reality with every thought and belief. If you believe I need to act a certain way for you to be ok with you, then that is a belief, one in which is participating in creating the Reality in which you live within. 

If you have to be a specific, non-changing version of you to “not lose” the affection of another, then LET THEM GO. As that is not your Truth, and not really even theirs, it is FEAR, and creates your life from a Fear Based Reality Foundation.

People Change.  Every second of every day we create reality based on our beliefs.  You must know your Belief to Consciously Create Reality.   Plus we only show a part of our true self.  And when dating we show what is fun and connected to that person, we cannot sustain the dating mode version of ourselves. And if we choose to suppress ourselves for the security blanket of not losing someone then do so knowingly. 

Some choose having someone around just to be around, they want help with dishes, laundry, grocery runs and bills. I have met many dating who look for a relationship based on jobs, on what they can provide to the household, chores, and be the “rock” per say. Thing is most people lose themselves in this. They may feel safe and content but they have slipped into someone elses version of them. Oftentimes both people do it. Kind of like the boiling frog thing, they don’t even know as it is gradual that they suppress their true self to keep a relationship and be “ok”.

In the example above, those who I dated that wanted me to take care of them and their kids in every way, to be monogamous, yet they withheld touch, flirting, even in the first month of dating. Part of the whole relationship thing for them was to have me constantly on the chase and doing things for them and sexual or flirting only now and then when they want, like they wanted to just keep me interested so I would pay attention to them, they could “own me”, oh and I would do physical labor, chores, and contribute money.

To me it is VERY important to be your true self, both of you and if you like it and it aligns hang out, be “together”, however if you alter one thing about who you are to be with another this is not a relationship, it is more of ownership, you are being controlled and allowing it. Some call it compromise, thing is it’s NOT compromise it is you changing to have this relationship and abandoning your true self for it. 

It is not Compromise so much as a mutual agreement whether spoken or not to work toward,

hence the saying Relationships are Work. Ya, No Thank You.  If you have to work on a relationship that is not one you should be in.  If you actually like it then it is NOT WORK.

Eliminate ALL Shoulds in your Relationship. 

You take care of you and don’t control your partner in any way. If you do and they let you, then so be it, but that is more a business relationship and not truly LOVE.

Another interesting Irony is that the more you “Let Go” of trying to control your partner so that you feel better about you, about them, about your relationship, the more they will actually want to be around you and your love will actually be deeper and based on two independent people each being true to their self.

Some say I am being true to me by being monogamous, it’s what I like. Ok if that is true yay for you. And if that changes at any point you may not admit it because of that initial “promise”. You may simply want an intimate friendship, a companion, and if both of you are in your Truth then yes this is a positive. 

If it’s True Love and not just a need to control others and your environment for your own trauma, then you can handle time apart and it would not affect you what another does, whether they do it naked or not, it is none of your business really.   Oh but what about disease. Well your partner can get a disease many ways, however if you think you need to control their body to protect them from disease they may or may not get and to protect yourself from this, then they may not be the right partner for you, and trying to control them or change how they really feel is NOT Love, it is Control and Fear Based. 

Some say you cheat on a partner by ignoring agreed upon boundaries about dating others, like not telling their partners when they have intimate connections with new people.  Yes if your lover is lying to you about anything, you may not want to be with them. But that is you trying to change them and calling that a loving relationship.  If you want them in your life, find out why they lied. Maybe they feel they own their own body and don’t need to run anything they do with their body by another, maybe they lie because the truth will cause you to pull in or treat them different, maybe they are financially dependant on you so they lie because you won’t be with them if they are their real true versio of themselves. The IMPORTANT part is to KNOW your Belief and don’t try and Control what others believe and feel so you feel better about YOU. That is NOT Love.

Also consider just because they don’t tell you that is not a lie, ya some say not telling is a lie. Thing is I am a grown up, you don’t own me. It is not a lie to NOT tell you every thought, every fantasy, every vision, every epiphany.  You don’t control my thoughts or feelings just because  you love me, and if you feel that then it's your fear and insecurity and NOT LOVING ME. Just because I am in a relationship with someone does not give them all access to my every thought, action, dream, vision, truth or lie. I Got Me. I don’t need a keeper, I want a lover, a friend, a companion, a playmate, and NOT a Warden.

Thing is for me, it always comes down to controlling my own mind, my thoughts, my emotions. How in the world does the actions of another, their choice, their body make or break me? If it does I need to keep working on the whole I Got Me, and I don’t need to control your actions to be ok with Me.  I need to work on removing more triggers and programs. IF the TRUTH of ANOTHER wrecks my World then I have not Got Me and need to keep discovering beliefs, and doing the inner work on myself. 

Some find life easier, more content if they know, or assume their partner only wants them, and for some this includes time a partner spends on their own hobbies, interests, projects, or anything that does not include them, as well as intimate friendships with another

To me it is a daily Choice, today I choose you, you choose me. I don’t own you past this moment or even in this moment. To love and touch another, to laugh and play, it is a Gift, not to be taken for granted or fall into the whole YOU are mine and we are monogamous so now I feel ok about me.

If the Actions of Another Makes or Breaks You, then this is an Inside Job. Ask yourself what must I believe to feel so bad just because my partner is doing someone or something that is not about me?

Jealousy is always Trauma Based. 

Needing to Control another in any way is Trauma Based. 

If you feel better about you, your life, your day based on the action of another, you will never be Happy, never be truly content, never be Sovereign as you are waiting every moment in some ptsd manner or walking on eggshells waiting for that moment your partner does something that you don’t approve of and then you lose your shit as they say. 

You MUSt be committed to your TRUE SELF and bring that True Self to all your relationships of every kind, in every way. And be so strong in that, that you don’t alter your true self so that someone else is “ok”, “stable”, or feels better about you, themselves or your relationship.

You have to define fun, intimacy, love how I am most comfortable with or I can’t be with you. Ok. But most don’t simply say hey you believe differently and move on, they manipulate you, control you, and you let them and their needs change you. 

So odd, they want to “keep” the person, and they think they can keep them by guilt tripping them into being a version of themselves that is not true but instead the one that their lover is most comfortable with and they call this Love, Intimacy, Marriage, a Relationship.  No Thank You. I strive to be my real true me for me. I strive to allow myself to be my true self. I strive to not be swayed, taken back, annihilated, sad, hurt, heartbroke, or devastated by the actions of another of which I cannot control. If I need to control them to feel ok about me then it’s back to the drawing board for me. Time to discover what Belief, Trigger or Progam is causing that emotion, and face it head on.

The ONLY Person you can Cheat on and Cheat out of is YOU. 


Relationship Writing Ramble by Reverend Crystal Cox 

Consciousness Consultant, Psychic Healer