This woman was talking to me once about how much she loved her husband, and I was very happy for her, she seemed so happy in general. I asked what she loved most about him, she said he "let's me" do what ever I want. My stomach turned insides out. It felt so parental, so the Dad to me. To her is was a very good thing as she had been with men who did not "let her" do what she wanted.

To me this is sick and not a lifestyle I would live, whereby someone "let's you" do what you want or would naturally be doing if they did not exist as some authority figure letting you do what you want. 

To her it was amazing because she could have a man in her life, have a relationship, home and still be who she wanted to be for herself. That is nice yes, however, the next step would be to just be yourself without needing a partner or spouse's permission for your every move.

Anyone "letting you" do what you would just do if you lived alone or were single, well that is oppressive, that is controlling and abusive

Someone "letting you" hang out with the girls, take a class you want, join yoga, go bowling, or really do anything you want and know is best for you, well that is saying that you are NOT in control of you but instead your every move and decision is based on the approval of someone else, the "letting you" of someone else.

Until you have Truly been Free, you may not understand this. Once you live alone for a period of time and have your home, curtains, floor, walls, chairs, music, environment, lawn, bedding, food, knick knacks, spirituality, just how you want.

You may not know what you like, how you really want to live or who you are and are just fine with someone letting you do this or that based on what they like or know to be how things are SUPPOSED to be. However, once you know and truly love you, you don't want to live like that. Yes you may make compromises, however, I believe there is room for both and not a meet in the middle version that is neither one of you. If you cannot FULLY be the real you then you are in the WRONG Relationship Period. 

Once you know who you really are, you will attract a partner that is really a good fit with your REAL SELF.  You will not want to be with someone who "let's you" do anything but instead someone who does them with you and you actually want to be with and someone who "let's you" LET YOU do whatever you want with your life, body, dress, education, lifestyle and YOUR YOU ~  Reverend Crystal Cox